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1)   CONSCIOUS MIND Vs SUB-CONSCIOUS MIND

a) Conscious mind:
The conscious mind is the part of our mind that is responsible for logical reasoning.

If I asked you about the sum of 5+5, it’s your conscious mind that makes that addition and arrives at the answer.

It also controls all the actions that we do on intention while being conscious.

It is also known as a ‘gate keeper’ for the mind. If someone tried to present us with a belief that doesn't match with our belief system, then it is our conscious mind that will do the filtering-out job.


b) Subconscious mind:
The subconscious mind is the part of our mind that is responsible for all our involuntary actions. Our breathing and heart functions are controlled by the subconscious mind.

If we try to control our breath on intention, like ‘pranayama’, then understand that our conscious mind has taken charge of that action. While all other times, we are breathing without being conscious of the breathing process, then understand that our subconscious mind has taken charge of the normal breathing action.

Also, our emotions are controlled by the subconscious mind. It is also the place where our beliefs and memories are stored.

 Compared to the conscious mind, the subconscious mind is more powerful. Here we must understand one important difference between these two minds. The conscious mind has the capacity to analyze and think logically with reasoning for each and every incident.

But the subconscious mind does not have such a capacity to analyze whether it is right or wrong, store as it is and will always react accordingly.

Hence it is very difficult to remove any belief system (right or wrong) stored in the subconscious mind.

Now let us see the role of subconscious mind with respect to the stammering problem. When Stammerer was young, his conscious mind has noticed that he could not speak without stammering and this wrong belief system had entered in to his subconscious mind over a period of time and stored there firmly. Because subconscious mind is not having analysing power, it will store as it is, that is he is a Stammerer.

As the subconscious mind is very powerful, it is very difficult to erase this mistakenly stored belief system.

2) HOW TO REMOVE WRONG BELIEF SYSTEM FROM THE SUBCONSCOUS MIND:

From the previous article, it is clear that the conscious mind has the analyzing capacity whereas the subconscious mind doesn’t. The subconscious mind will store all the belief systems as it is (right or wrong) that was analyzed by conscious mind.

Subconscious mind is a powerful one. Once a belief system entered into it, the subconscious mind would not allow erasing it easily even conscious mind tells to do so. If now the conscious tells to subconscious mind  that “Now only  I learned that I put a wrong belief system on you long back that I cannot speak well and I want to correct it”. To make agree the subconscious mind, the conscious mind has to substantiate it with reasoning and also has to practically convince subconscious mind.

How to convince a Stammerer’s  subconscious mind? For this, his conscious mind has to first convince itself that “After following the practicing techniques, my speech is improving day by day”.  To achieve this, the Stammerer should practice speech therapy, improve his speech and gain confidence day by day.

After gaining some confidence, the conscious mind of the Stammerer has to talk to the subconscious mind like “Dear subconscious mind, I did wrongly put a belief system on you, when I was young, and that I could speak with stammering only. Now after joining support  and whatsapp groups, I am practicing every day and will be able to speak well in one year time (specifying time is very important). The Stammerer can talk to his subconscious mind as many times as possible.

If any Stammerer do like this sincerely, in one year time he can easily control his stammering to the extent of 98-99%.

3) WHAT IS THE ACCEPTANCE OF STAMMERING:

Acceptance of stammering is to accept one’s stammering problem at any place, at any time, at any circumstances without any shame and fear in his mind. He must understand that he is not doing any crime by the act of stammering. In fact, he doesn’t know why he is stammering.

Suppose if someone asks a Stammerer "Are you a stammerer?” then he must simply admit and  reply "yes" without any inner emotional feelings. That's all. Instead, he should not try to conceal his stammering and do not try to explain, like, "I do stammer mildly; I do stammer only to the strangers; I only stammer when I tell my name; etc..

A Stammerer has  to frequently discuss about his stammering with his parents, spouses (if married), close relatives, close friends, etc.,  like "Now I have joined in self supporting and “WhatsApp” group, learned practicing techniques to overcome my stammering and I am practicing daily".  He can also send his practicing videos to them through “WhatsApp” and “youtube.”

By doing these kind of activities, his fear and shame over his stammering would be considerably reduced which in turn would relieve off his emotional baggage that he was carrying hitherto. Without acceptance, no practicing technique will make a Stammerer to overcome his speech problem.

But a Stammerer has to understand one thing. He doesn’t  need any sympathy from others, but do need their support and encouragement to overcome his stammering.

Please remember that stammering is a social related issue and a Stammerer needs the support of others. Because he won't stammer when he was alone. Also remember that he cannot secretly overcome his stammering by simply hiding behind a computer or with the help of  a smart phone. He has to face the world boldly.

Hence, a Stammerer has to accept his stammering whole heartedly, without any shame or fear, practice the speech therapy regularly for one year and overcome his stammering. Afterwards, he can forget about his speech problem and enjoy the life like a normal speaking person.

4) HOW TO GET RID OF SHAME AND FEAR BECAUSE OF STAMMERING:

1. Speak openly about his stammering problem with his family, friends and colleagues.

2. Discuss with them about SHG meetings, stammering “WhatsApp” group, etc.

3. At work places, speak about his stammering problem with his higher officials at appropriate time, and the steps he is taking now to overcome it. The higher officials will appreciate him and welcome his steps taken for overcoming stammering.

4. Before starting of any interview and before giving any power point presentation or any speech, tell to them that "I may stammer here and there and kindly bear with me". This will make comfortable both the Stammerer as well as the audience.

6. Use bouncing and voluntarily stuttering while buying things at shops and ordering at restaurants to get rid of fear and shame.

These are only few things to begin with.

A little bit of courage is required at the beginning. After that, no one can stop a Stammerer.